On Hold

This is something that has to be said.

People are constantly putting their lives on hold.

We are put on hold on the phone, we wait in lines, we wait at red lights.  Every day we spend the majority of our time waiting for one thing or another.

There are times when being put on hold hurts!   When you have plans with someone, and they put you on hold, it hurts.  When you are put on hold time and time again, and plans aren't just put on hold, but completely broken, that doesn't just hurt.  That isdevastating.  When the same person is constantly apologizing for failing you, they do not realize that what they are really doing is failing themselves.  There is only so much a person can take before they give up waiting.  They give up asking.  They give up making plans.  They give up talking.  They just simply give up on you.   Because, let's face it.  Who wants to feel like they are not worth the attention of someone who claims to love you?  Words are meaningless.  Items are meaningless.  If someone truly loves you, they will find a way to show it!  Not to say it.  Not to buy it.  But to honest to God show it, to where there is absolutely no doubt in their partner's mind that they are loved.  

Breaking plans time and again is not just telling them that you do not want to spend time with them.  It is also saying that you do not respect them enough to tell them the truth.  It is alright to tell the truth, and say, "You know what?  I really don't feel like doing what you asked me to today.  Could we compromise, and do something else?"  It is alright to say you need time to yourself.  It is alright to say you already had plans.  It is not alright to lie.  It is not alright to constantly leave someone wondering if they have done something wrong, if they have angered you, or saddened you, or disappointed you, time and time again.  

Do not put your lover on hold.  You never know when the last time they will ask for you will be.